Now & Then
Yes you read the title right – sexy is sexier than sex, practically and metaphorically. What do I mean by this? Well… let me explain. Have you ever wondered why this world is now sex mad? When you compare this generation to 50 years ago – any sex related topic was a taboo subject, whereas now it’s the opposite. Children in the playground are talking about it in more depth than adults and if you are not ‘clued up’ you’re considered to be a prude. Coming from the UK, I am all too aware of how many girls are getting pregnant when they are still children themselves. England has the highest rate of underage pregnancy in Europe which is causing an ever perpetuating cycle of what is now known as ‘Broken Britain’. The pressure that young women are under to loose their virginity before a certain age is incredulous and I genuinely believe that the media and popular celebrities that are considered ‘role models’ have a lot to do with it.
Women are now considered to be a sex symbol more than ever. Marilyn Monroe was one of the most iconic in this culture of females being just as ostentatious as men in the dating/sex arena. However, the difference now is; derogatory porn, sex on the first date and disrespect towards women which is more rife than it has ever been. Of course, I am not stupid – I am aware that to a degree this has always been the case but what is more worrying now is that is is actively encouraged in many ways, albeit subtlety, it is considered the norm. On the other hand, women do have many more rights and are far more liberated than their grandmothers, although what I think is a shame is that where they have obtained respect, they have lost it as far as chivalry and romance is concerned.
As women we all know what men want – which may sound completely sexist, but ultimately it’s true. There are always exceptions, but generally speaking from my experience with men – the more women give, the less they receive in return. Like everything, it comes down to balance and only giving and committing ourselves accordingly, on the condition that we are appreciated, loved and most importantly respected. Of course, ‘friends with benefits’ is very common now-a-days and I am not judging anyone, as we all have different perspectives and sometimes just a bit of fun is all we want and need at that stage in our lives.
However, back to my title… I believe that sexy is and always will be sexier than sex itself. Like Christmas Eve before Christmas Day, or like the build up of being at the airport prior to going away on holiday… or the thrill of the chase before going all the way with someone. The reality of something is very rarely greater than the excitement before the actual event. Once it’s here, once it’s been and done – there is an anti-climax (and I mean metaphorically… although in relation to sex it can still be very applicable!).
The Grass Is Always Greener…
There is nothing more enticing than the mystery of the unknown… the illusion of infatuation…. and the magic of fantasy that our minds create. My point to writing this article is to ask you – what is it now that you yourself are waiting on and working towards? As great as an accomplishment feels, it is important to remember that once it’s completed (whatever the goal or dream), it is only natural for us to look towards the next thing. Relationships are a prime example. As great as being with that special someone is, it is inevitable that once that particular physical boundary has been crossed, it is not long before complacency starts to set in. The aspect of ‘sex appeal’ and attraction begins to decline slowly but surely. We adjust and get used to that other person and new chapter in our lives. It stops being our main focus.
We look to progress in someway – whether it be within the same relationship or in a brand new one. Life is about the journey, not the destination and as my title states ‘sexy is sexier than sex’ which is why it is crucial we savour the present and anticipation of what is yet to be. We have a habit of thinking that once we get something (or someone) we will be happy but in actual fact we need to create the happiness within ourselves first and foremost. We are able to ensure this by doing the things that makes us happy and by being with the people who enrich and add value to our lives. As we do evolve, make changes, and fulfill our heart’s desires, (whatever that may be), the most important factor is that we are being true to ourselves in order to create those moments of excitement and pleasure on a prolonged, consistent basis.
What do you think?
Until next time…
Lots of Love & Light,