Sexy Is Sexier Than Sex

Now & Then

Yes you read the title right – sexy is sexier than sex, practically and metaphorically. What do I mean by this? Well… let me explain. Have you ever wondered why this world is now sex mad? When you compare this generation to 50 years ago – any sex related topic was a taboo subject, whereas now it’s the opposite. Children in the playground are talking about it in more depth than adults and if you are not ‘clued up’ you’re considered to be a prude. Coming from the UK, I am all too aware of how many girls are getting pregnant when they are still children themselves. England has the highest rate of underage pregnancy in Europe which is causing an ever perpetuating cycle of what is now known as ‘Broken Britain’. The pressure that young women are under to loose their virginity before a certain age is incredulous and I genuinely believe that the media and popular celebrities that are considered ‘role models’ have a lot to do with it.

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Women are now considered to be a sex symbol more than ever. Marilyn Monroe was one of the most iconic in this culture of females being just as ostentatious as men in the dating/sex arena. However, the difference now is; derogatory porn, sex on the first date and disrespect towards women which is more rife than it has ever been. Of course, I am not stupid – I am aware that to a degree this has always been the case but what is more worrying now is that is is actively encouraged in many ways, albeit subtlety, it is considered the norm. On the other hand, women do have many more rights and are far more liberated than their grandmothers, although what I think is a shame is that where they have obtained respect, they have lost it as far as chivalry and romance is concerned. 

As women we all know what men want – which may sound completely sexist, but ultimately it’s true. There are alwayssexy is sexier than sex exceptions, but generally speaking from my experience with men – the more women give, the less they receive in return. Like everything, it comes down to balance and only giving and committing ourselves accordingly, on the condition that we are appreciated, loved and most importantly respected. Of course, ‘friends with benefits’ is very common now-a-days and I am not judging anyone, as we all have different perspectives and sometimes just a  bit of fun is all we want and need at that stage in our lives.

However, back to my title… I believe that sexy is and always will be sexier than sex itself. Like Christmas Eve before Christmas Day, or like the build up of being at the airport prior  to going away on holiday… or the thrill of the chase before going all the way with someone. The reality of something is very rarely greater than the excitement before the actual event. Once it’s here, once it’s been and done – there is an anti-climax (and I mean metaphorically… although in relation to sex it can still be very applicable!).

sexy is sexier than sexThe Grass Is Always Greener…

There is nothing more enticing than the mystery of the unknown… the illusion of infatuation…. and the magic of fantasy that our minds create. My point to writing this article is to ask you – what is it now that you yourself are waiting on and working towards? As great as an accomplishment feels, it is important to remember that once it’s completed (whatever the goal or dream), it is only natural for us to look towards the next thing. Relationships are a prime example. As great as being with that special someone is, it is inevitable that once that particular physical boundary has been crossed, it is not long before complacency starts to set in. The aspect of ‘sex appeal’ and attraction begins to decline slowly but surely. We adjust and get used to that other person and new chapter in our lives. It stops being our main focus.

We look to progress in someway – whether it be within the same relationship or in a brand new one. Life is about the journey, not the destination and as my title states ‘sexy is sexier than sex’ which is why it is crucial we savour the present and anticipation of what is yet to be. We have a habit of thinking that once we get something (or someone) we will be happy but in actual fact we need to create the happiness within ourselves first and foremost. We are able to ensure this by doing the things that makes us happy and by being with the people who enrich and add value to our lives. As we do evolve, make changes, and fulfill our heart’s desires, (whatever that may be), the most important factor is that we are being true to ourselves in order to create those moments of excitement and pleasure on a prolonged, consistent basis.

What do you think?

Until next time…

Lots of Love & Light,

Holly xx

Stop Self Sabotaging Behaviour


Self sabotaging behaviour is an activity that we all engage in. Whether we are aware of it or not, we love to self sabotage and unfortunately we spend the majority of our lives doing so. Most of us have big dreams and our own idea of what makes up the perfect lifestyle. We say that we want ‘this and that’ more than anything else… so how come we don’t get very far in obtaining them? Continue reading

Wimbledon Tennis Champions

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Centre Court at Wimbledon – the most prestigious tennis court in the world. The one on which every professional player strives to compete…and triumph. Wimbledon tennis tournament epitomizes the sport; showcasing tennis at its very best. The likes of Novak Djokovic, Roger Federer, Serena Williams and Andy Murray slogging it out for the grand slam title is no doubt a first class performance and in a league of its very own.

I have never been a sports fanatic, however tennis and particularly Wimbledon tennis, has always been a sporting event I have been captivated with since a child. It has only been in recent years that I have resonated with it on a deeper level and really appreciated the psychological aspect of the game. Continue reading

Slaves To The Subconscious…?


Over the years I have had some nasty things happen to me – who hasn’t? Physically and mentally I feel that I am over it… these inflicted wounds have been and gone and are no longer a part of me.  Although I have believed that to be true I have come to the realization that unfortunately it is not. Instead, what do I find? Certain habitual traits and behaviours that have become embedded cause me to follow the same path and experience the same hardship over and over.   Continue reading

Human Energy Fields

Energy. It is all around us; in everything we see, feel, touch, taste and smell. Although energy is not actually tangible, there is no denying its existence. Throw a feather in the air (or anything for that matter) and watch it fall to the ground, or flick a light switch on and off – everything is made up of various energy forms… as are we. This is why we are able to sense an atmosphere in a room or pick up on particular vibes from one another. In some cases, we can even sense when something is going to happen or when someone is going to say something…. all because of energy. Energy is responsible for making us feel connected as humans and anything and everything we interact with, including the ecosystem, planet earth and the universe at large. Continue reading

6 Amazing Natural Ways To Fight Depression

Guest post written by Ariel Baradarian

In this article, I want to share with you my six best and natural ways to fight depression.

Depression can have a major effect on our lives and can really bring us down on all levels – physically, emotionally, mentally, and even spiritually.

Those affected with depression will have no desire to accomplish anything nor will they have any motivation whatsoever to make a difference in their lives or in the lives of others.

Natural Ways To Fight Depression

Depression can be caused by a variety of emotional, mental, & physical factors. More than that, depression can be very dangerous

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Love Life Again with Love Coaching

Are you having consistent issues in your love life?

Do you keep going round in circles and don’t know where to turn? Love is the most beautiful and magical aspect of life… but it can also be the source of so much pain, stress and anguish. 

  • Are you in a dead end relationship but scared to let go?
  • Are you single but lack confidence and/or you’re afraid of getting hurt?
  • Are you a love magnet but just can’t seem to find the one?
  • Are you in a serious relationship but the sparkle and excitement has gone?

Whatever your circumstances, if love is an area of your life that is in need of revamping, then let’s discuss options to see how I can help. Check out my exclusive Love Coaching Offer now – affordable sessions to help you put your relationship back on track starting from today. 

I look forward to hearing from you. 

Lots of Love & Light always,

Holly xx

My Synergy With Water

ocean-1406000I was standing on my balcony, with the sun kissing my skin and a delicious ocean breeze dancing around me. I could not have been happier than I was at that moment. Staring out ahead all I could see was the vast expanse of ocean before me; a deep sapphire blue that was magically hypnotic as well as projecting a quiet aura of foreboding. Albeit being on a luxury cruise liner with my family, I would spend hours on my balcony, lost in my own reverie with nothing but the sun and sea for company.

During the time I spent watching countless crests of waves, it occurred to me how much I love water. Anything to do with water – I am internally drawn.  Whether it is spending two hours in a bubble bath, (which I do frequently!),  lounging in a swimming pool or jacuzzi, or just simply being close to water such as on a beach or walking along a riverbank – I love water! Even during a bad thunderstorm, I like to open the window ajar so I can smell the fresh downpour, and then I curl up in bed soothed by the noise. Continue reading

How To Transform Your Life…. Playing

Is life nothing but a game? A game that equates to a series of trials and tribulations, challenge and competition, dreams and success? Well, I’m not clever enough to answer that but here’s a game that I’ve found that is pretty damn good at depicting life’s problems in a liberating way. What’s more is that it actually guides you in finding the solution; giving you direction to transform your life.

Imagine a game you can play that would enable you to;

  • clarify important personal issues & figure out your next stepsImage result for transformation game
  • find new ways to enhance your relationships
  • recognize personal contributions & abilities
  • transform fears & challenges with fresh insight
  • discover a stress-free work/life balance
  • understand yourself and others more
  • receive love, inspiration & support on your life’s path

This game is amazing – where do I start? Well I think the only way for you to appreciate the ingenuity of this game is for me to share with you my own experience playing it. May I also just be clear before going any further that this game has nothing to do with Quija boards, magic or anything remotely hocus pocus – so please don’t worry!

It is called The Transformation Game and is a board game based on intuition and insight.

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